I love Christmas. There’s no other time like it.It is the ultimate family holiday. It brings families
together and because of the great demands on time during this season, it can
also tear families apart. Relationships will be tested if one partner
monopolizes available family time at the expense of the other. Couples have to plan how time will be fairly allocated
to spend with family members on both sides. In other words, if you make a habit
of spending most of the time with your family every year and not spend time with
the family of your significant other, you are asking for trouble. The consequence will be hard feelings. The neglected family understandably will be irritated with
the offending relative and entertain doubts about its position on the totem
So if you wish to enhance family relationships during Christmastime instead
of inflicting damage that results in conflict, recognize that quality time must
be spent on with each family. Doing so will increase the likelihood that your Christmas
indeed will be Merry!
With the country in an economic downturn, there are widespread feelings of anguish and despair. When people most need other people to help them lift their spirits and reaffirm the presence of hope, the tendency is to discount the importance or eliminate altogether activities such as training that bring people together in a natural arena of support. It's similar to working through lunch everyday or not taking a break far enough from an item that allows for a different perspective. It's a practice that is counter-productive.
I just returned from an annual meeting of my professional peers. Due to the state of the economy and the tendency to discount the importance of people getting together, attendance was at 50 percent of it's norm. Persons who were able to attend were truly blessed. The workshops and speakers provided the usual helpful insight. However, most beneficial was the exchange of ideas that occurred during informal sessions with peers in the hotel corridors, the exhibit hall, or over a meal.
In addition, we didn't just help ourselves. The hotel staff was elated by our presence. Their industry has taken a painful hit from reduced revenue that has resulted in the loss of many jobs. They thankfully relayed to many that our event was the most work for them in quite some time. Their appreciation showed in their smiles and their service. They even had a special appreciation event for us before we left in case we somehow missed how appreciative they were. So events that build relationships aren't just feel good and light and fluffy, but in some instances positively contribute to returning the country back to a better economic state.
I borrowed the title, "Love Between a Boy and Girl", from an old R&B tune by the Temprees. The song adds that it can be so wonderful. That is so true, but it takes serious effort. The effort required however, should not discourage you from trying. To love and potentially lose is still better than never to find love at all.
The biggest threat to a longterm relationship is familiarity. All too often, we take for granted the persons who are closest to us. The result can be conflict due to neglect and the flame that once was hot loses some of its intensity. But whether the relationship is personal or business, I aim to will give advice on a regularly basis that I hope will help people eliminate their obstacles to a rewarding relationship and enjoy the good life with their significant other.
Come back soon, because love between a boy and girl truly can be so wonderful!